Imeko ebolileyo ye-intanethi kunye noluntu lwethu kunye noloyiko lokuba ikamva lisiphathele ntoni xa sijongana notshintsho lwemozulu olungagungqiyo esilubonayo.
namhlanje ngamanye amaxesha kunokubangela iimpembelelo ezimbi kakhulu kwimpilo yethu yengqondo.Ehlabathini lonke, oorhulumente bayaqhubeka nokuxhasa iiprojekthi zamafutha efosili nangona kukho
iziphumo zokutshintsha kwemozulu.
Abantu kwihlabathi lonke sele benyanzelwa ukuba bashiye amakhaya abo ngenxa yeentlekele ezinxulumene nemozulu kwaye oku kusishiya sonke sinexhala;ngenxa
thina kodwa ingakumbi sisenzela ukhuseleko nempilo yabanye.
Abazali bakwaphantsi koxinzelelo olwandisiweyo lokufundisa abantwana babo indlela yokuba ngabemi abazileyo kunye nokukhathalela okusingqongileyo.Oku kukongeza ekukhathazekeni
ukuxhalaba kolutsha kunye nokudakumba.
Idityaniswe nenyaniso yokuba namhlanje, inani labantu aboyikayo ukungaphumeleli, ingakumbi kwimisebenzi abayikhethileyo, liphezulu kunangaphambili;akukho nzima ukubona ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo
amanyathelo kufuneka enziwe ukunciphisa imvakalelo yokuphelelwa lithemba xa amaxesha esibanzima.Kulapho ukuqina kwengqondo kungena khona.
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Ukomelela ngokwasengqondweni kuya kukunceda ukuba umelane neengxaki zakho ngokuzolileyo kwaye uphinde ululame kuwo nawaphi na amaqhuma asendleleni yakho ngokukhawuleza.Ingaba ezi zigingqi zendlela
ncinane (njengokufumana intlawulo yokupaka okanye ukungawufumani loo msebenzi ubuwufuna) okanye intlekele kumlinganiselo omkhulu (iinkanyamba okanye uhlaselo lwabanqolobi), Nazi iindlela ezilula
unokomeleza ukomelela kwakho kwengqondo ukuze umelane ngcono neemeko ezinzima:
1. Qonda ukuba awukwazi ukulawula yonke into.
Enye yeendlela zokomeleza ukuzimisela kwakho kwengqondo kukuba ube ngcono ekukhetheni imilo yakho.Ingcali yengqondo yokuziphatha uDonald
URobertson, oyingcali kulwalamano oluphakathi kwentanda-bulumko, ingqondo kunye nokuziphucula, kwincwadi yakhe ethi Stoicsm and the Art of Happiness, uthi
ukuba kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba yintoni onokuyilawula kunye nento ongakwaziyo, njengoko kuphela kwento onokuyilawula ngokwenene ziingcinga zakho zangabom.Ehlabathini lonke
iingxaki ayizozakho ukuba uzisombulule kwaye ngokuphandle, awukwazi ukuzilawula zonke nokuba ubufuna.Ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza umahluko phakathi kwezinto onokuzenza
ukulawula kunye nezinto ongakwaziyo ukuzenza, unokuqinisekisa ukuba amandla akho kunye namandla akho awachithwanga ekugqibeleni.
Gxininisa kwizinto onokukwazi ukuzilawula, kungekhona ongakwaziyo.
Inyaniso elula omele uyikhumbule kukuba ebomini, uya kujongana namaxesha anzima, akukho ndlela yakujika loo nto.Unokuba nobusuku obumbalwa apho ungakwazi
ukulala ngenxa yoxinzelelo olulodwa okanye enye.Iqhinga apha kukuba ungalahli ubuthongo obuninzi kwizinto ongenakuzicombulula.Inye into onokuhlala uyilawula
impendulo yakho kwiziganeko ebomini bakho kwaye oko kulungile.
Ngoko xa uzifumanisa uzikhathaza ngezinto ezininzi ngaxeshanye, yima ucinge ngendima yakho ngokwesicombululo.Nalapho awukwazi ukunika ixesha elide
Izisombululo kuba unempembelelo encinci- yithi kwimeko yemililo yaseAmazon, iBrexit kunye nengxabano yaseSyria- kuhlala kukho ingxaki onokuthi uyisombulule.
ubomi bakho ukwenza izinto ngcono kancinci, nokuba awukwazi ukusombulula ngqo ezinkulu, iingxaki zehlabathi.Umzekelo, gxila kwizinto onokuzilawula ezifana
ukuphumeza inkqubo yempilo yemihla ngemihla ukuba ufuna ukunciphisa umzimba, okanye ukupakisha ikiti yakho yenkunkuma engu-zero ukuba ufuna ukuphepha ukusebenzisa iplastiki enye.
2. Beka umbulelo kwindawo yokuqala.
Umbulelo yimvakalelo enamandla yomntu kwaye ubhekiselele kwimeko yombulelo.Kuchazwa njengoxabiso olunzulu ngomntu (okanye into) leyo
ivelisa i-positivity ehlala ixesha elide.
Ukuziqhelanisa nombulelo yenye yezona zinto zinkulu onokuthi uzenze kwimpilo yakho yengqondo, kuba iya kukunceda ugcine izinto zikwindawo entle, nangexesha elininzi.
amaxesha anzima.Xa uziqhelanisa nombulelo rhoqo, uya kuba neemvakalelo ezakhayo ngakumbi, uzive uphila ngakumbi, ulale ngcono, kwaye uvakalise ngakumbi
imfesane kwabanye.Kananjalo uya kukwazi ngcono ukuthintela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinjengomona, okanye ingqumbo.Umbulelo ubonakaliswe njenge-psychotherapeutic kwi
olu phando ludumileyo lwaseYale nguRobert A. Emmons kunye noRobin Stern ngenxa yempembelelo yalo yokuphilisa kwingqondo yomntu.
Ngoko xa uziva ngathi ubunzima behlabathi buphezu kwamagxa akho thatha ixesha kwaye ucamngce ngoko unombulelo ngako.Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyigcine le nto
kuphela kwiziganeko ezibalulekileyo.Ungabonisa umbulelo ngokunyuselwa emsebenzini, kodwa unokubulela nje ngophahla phezu kwentloko yakho okanye ngesidlo osifumanayo.
kwatyiwa isidlo sasemini.
3. Yenza into ongakwaziyo ukuyenza.
Kukho umzi-mveliso wokuziphuhlisa uphela okuxelela ukuba ugxile koko ulungileyo kwaye unikezele yonke enye into komnye umntu.Njengenjengele
umgaqo, le ndlela ineenzuzo ezininzi, enye yazo kukuba sinako ukonwaba ngakumbi kwaye senze ngcono kakhulu xa sifika sigxile kuphela.
oko sikwenza ngcono.Kodwa ukugxila kuphela kumandla akho akuyi kunceda kakhulu xa kufikelelwa ekomelezeni isigqibo sakho sengqondo.Esi sifundo sophando malunga nokuba ingaba njani
umthombo wenkuthazo kunye nokusebenza, umzekelo, ubonisa ukuba xa abantu beqaphela ixhala abaziva ngalo malunga nomngeni omtsha okanye injongo, bangaphezulu.
kusenokwenzeka ukuba bazingise emsebenzini wabo, baze bafumane ulwaneliseko olungakumbi ebudeni bomsebenzi.
Ukubeka ngokwahlukileyo, awusoloko ufune ukomelela ngengqondo ukwenza umsebenzi ukuba sele uwenza kakuhle.Apho amandla akho okwenene avavanywa kakhulu kwiimeko
ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela;ngoko ke ukuphuma ngaphandle kweso sangqa rhoqo emva kwexesha kuya kwenza okulungileyo ukomelela kwakho kwengqondo.Kwincwadi yakheFikelelaUnjingalwazi we
Ukuziphatha kombutho kwiYunivesithi yaseBrandeis kwiSikolo soShishino lwaMazwe ngaMazwe kunye nengcali yokuziphatha kwilizwe leshishini,Andy Molinskyicacisa oko
ngokuphuma ngaphandle kweendawo zethu zokuthuthuzela, siyakwazi ukuthatha amathuba, sivule amathuba amaninzi amatsha kwaye sifumanise izinto malunga nathi ebesingenakuzifumana.
ngenye indlela ifunyenwe.
Eli nyathelo linokuba lula njengokuthetha nomntu ongenakhaya okanye loyike njengevolontiya njengesithethi kuhambo olulandelayo lwemozulu kwindawo ohlala kuyo, nangona
indalo yakho eneentloni.Eyona nto ibalulekileyo apha kukuba xa ngamanye amaxesha uzifaka kwizinto ongakwaziyo kuzo, uya kuzibona iintsilelo zakho zicace ngakumbi ukuze
unokwenza uhlengahlengiso oluyimfuneko kwingqondo yakho kwaye usebenze ekoluleni amandla akho.Konke oku kuya komeleza amandla akho engqondo kakhulu
4. Ziqhelanise nemithambo yengqondo yemihla ngemihla.
Ingqondo, njengomzimba, ifuna umthambo wengqondo rhoqo ukuyigcina ilungile ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo.Ukuqina kwengqondo kufana nesihlunu, kufuneka kusetyenzwe
khula kwaye uphuhlise kwaye eyona ndlela ikhawulezayo yokufika apho kukuziqhelanisa.Ngoku akukho mathandabuzo amancinci okuba iimeko ezigqithisileyo esijongene nazo zivavanya inkalipho neengqondo zethu
Sombulula kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba uvumele izinto zibe mbi kakhulu.
Nika ingqalelo kwiimeko zakho zemihla ngemihla kwaye uziqhelanise nokomeleza amandla akho engqondo kunye nabo.Yinkqubo ebandakanya ukuchonga imeko
kukhokelela kuxinzelelo lwengqondo okanye unxunguphalo, ukwahlula iingcinga neemvakalelo ezikhokelela kokuiimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kunye nokusebenzisa iingcamango ezinempilo ukutshintsha
ingcinga egqwethekileyo esoloko isemva kwezi mood.
Ixesha lokuposa: May-08-2021